a summer afternoon yellow curtains fluttering a gentle grey as the sun slid quietly behind a cloud that time you stood feet planted, unwavering in the galeforce rage feeling small your heart aching impotent to please her unable to leave her to self-destruct

Have I said this lately? Authenticity is everything. If you can fake that, you’ve got it made. I’ve been thinking about vulnerability, transparency, how to write about what I’m experiencing… whether to write about it… I’ve been thinking about clarity, and compassion, and speaking from the

Have you ever thought about what it must be like to have hallucinations and know that you’re having them? (Or maybe you’ve actually had them yourself?) What must it be like to see something, and know that it isn’t real, even though you can totally see it? There’s a reason I bring this up. Lots [...]

Brene Brown says everybody has shame, but nobody wants to talk about it. But not talking about it lets us overestimate its power. I am happy to listen to my shame, but I don’t accept its theories about who I am. I won’t live in the house shame built for me. I have a different [...]

Well, imagine this: A genie comes and gives you a three by five card from the world of Harry Potter. You look at it when you’re waiting for your coffee, and it shows you short updates from five or six people. One is interesting to you, and the rest are not, and you stick the [...]

So Jesus was walking along with his friends, and he was *hungry*. He saw a fig tree! Sweet! Alas, it was out of season. No figs. “Damn you, tree!” he said. “You suck!” He kept walking, and the tree withered. “Uh, Jesus? Dood. You just killed that tree.” “Aw, shit,” Jesus said.

tl;dr I’ve been thinking about whether I’m congruent—that is, the same person on twitter that I am in 4D (“meatspace”). I know that I use more colorful language in person than I do in twitter. (I’m about 68% in the “it’s just a word” camp, and 29% in the “why scare

The thing is, I don't hear the Source of Love calling me to adopt a non-violent strategy for getting by in the world. The call I hear is way simpler, and in some ways harder. It's a call to drop my agenda, to surrender, all the way, to love.

I wish there were something I could do to express how important I this idea is. I want to shout it from rooftops, but I know that doesn’t really help. So, here it is. Let them as has ears hear it. :) “If you want to build a ship,don’t drum up people togetherto collect wood [...]

A friend predicted (correctly) that I don’t make New Years’ resolutions. Then he asked me to talk about why, and it got me thinking. I came up with two reasons. The first reason is that I don’t want to think in terms of “fixing” myself. I’m a glorious holy mess, created in the image of [.

The mystic poet Hafiz explains why I’m so stubborn about love. Even after all this time The sun never says to the Earth, “You owe me.” Look what happens with a love like that. It lights the whole sky.

This TED talk really made my jaw hit the floor. You may not know this about me, but… my life has been rough. I don’t mean I’m a victim. I mean I’ve been unhappy. Like 20-years-on-Prozac unhappy. (And other meds too.) I sought peace, not as a researcher, like this woman, but as a desperate [...]

There’s this guy, Chris Rosebrough, who has been preaching (loudly) that there’s something wrong with GLBT people. He apparently has a radio show, where he talks about what he calls love (but looks nothing like love to me). I don’t want LGBT kids to be convinced they’re hated by God, or that there

Despite the following very sweet quote, please get ready to join me in hacking through the bullshit, and talking about how to pull off this “no blame” thing when somebody screws up… Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I will meet you there. — Rumi If you haven’t rea

I am interested in putting together an unconference following the openspace format. Wanna play? (By play, I mean come, or help create it, or ???) So far, in my mind, it looks like this: HUMAN::CONTACT unconference for exploring technologies of compassion The topic I’d like to focus on is “technologies of compass

Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I will meet you there. — Rumi When I first ran across the Retrospective Prime Directive, I was excited. It gave me hope that there were folks who’d found a way to do business without relying on blame. In my experience, blame gets in [...]

Apparently I’m on a poetry kick. There is poetry clawing at the inside of my skull, or pecking, hoping to crack me open so it can escape. But I gird myself with reminisces and meta. This is by Billy Collins, one of my favorite poets. Introduction to Poetry I ask them to take a poem [...]

The Step-Mother Speaks Today my son cried for the first time about you leaving. My son–our son– has always said he understands. He’s always said he was ok. “Ok” without warm arms around him for so long.”Ok” without a warm breast to lie on. You are “cool.” You’re hi

(For Tracy, around 2006) An earthquake shook my shoes on Saturday night, and my hat. It was centered, I am told, nine miles below that first kiss, at Burnside and Thirty-first. Nine miles seems far, but the roots I pulled up to get to this place were planted thirty times as far from that kiss, [...]

When I hear about Dexter, I was all “Gross! I’m not watching a show about a serial killer. Who’s a protagonist! Gross!” Somehow, I watched some, and at first, I winced. More than that, I looked away. I wanted to know why folks loved it, but I couldn’t watch the… you know… parts. But

I just read these words from Tobias Mayer, and wanted to share them. “So how do I see Agile? I see it as one stepping stone (a particularly beautiful one) on a great journey towards a business world that is more caring, loving, respectful and altogether more joyous.” — Tobias Mayer Read the rest of [...]

Agile isn’t about bucking up and pretending things are working when they aren’t. It’s not about acting perfect and unflappable, but it is about finding ways to see clearly and act out of curiousity and joy, rather than out of fear. Many years ago, I was at home, learning with my little unschoolers, when I

I tried to fit me into the profile options at LinkedIn. Today, I decided to quit trying. Then, someone asked me what I’d like better. I find that question kinda exciting! ^__^ So, here goes… I’d enjoy, play with, participate in, appreciate a site with… …a profile that welcomes concurrent projec

Yesterday I wrote a post about why I don’t have a job or a freelance thingie anymore. Since I want collaborators, mentors and co-explorers, I thought I’d mention what I am doing this season. Agile Studies I am learning everything I can about Agile. I can’t get enough of it. Specifically, this means learnin

Yesterday I wrote a post about why I don’t have a job or a freelance thingie anymore. Since I want collaborators, mentors and co-explorers, I thought I’d mention what I am doing this season. Agile Studies I am learning everything I can about Agile. I can’t get enough of it. Specifically, this means learni

Last night at a meeting, somebody asked me why I don’t make money. There are a lot of reasons, but lately the reason I don’t make money is this: I am a full-time student. Not at a university (though Ohio State says they’ll hand over my Philosophy degree if I take three non-Philosophy classes so [...]

Last night at a meeting, somebody asked me why I don’t make money. There are a lot of reasons, but lately the reason I don’t make money is this: I am a full-time student. Not at a university (though Ohio State says they’ll hand over my Philosophy degree if I take three non-Philosophy classes so [...]

Yesterday I read (but didn’t much enjoy) a post about Agile suckage. And it got me thinking about why Agile is a good idea for business. I’ve been thinking about this because I couldn’t give a rats ass about profit [*ok, I confess that's not quite true—but not for profit's sake]. That statement might

Yesterday I read (but didn’t much enjoy) a post about Agile suckage. And it got me thinking about why Agile is a good idea for business. I’ve been thinking about this because I couldn’t give a rats ass about profit. That statement might come back to haunt me someday, when I want to be fascinated by [...]

I just figured something out. And wow. So Radical Love Project isn’t filling my time or my life, lately. Well, it kind of is, in that I haven’t stopped with the crazy pursuit of love. But since we moved to Columbus, that path is fuzzy. It’s taking a long time to feel like we have [...]